I feel that the deepest questions of life are best handled with a sense of respect and reverence. Rather than applying aggressive agendas to life's mysteries, we should encourage truth-seeking and question asking. Personally speaking, I prefer conversations that focus on encouragement to think rather than pressure to conform. In fact, if I sense an agenda or a sales pitch, I may even plead the fifth and disengage.
If we really want to know what someone believes, we should first become their friend. Trading agendas and sales pitches for honesty and respect can help tear down walls. Most people tend to value vulnerability and honesty over pressure and angry arguments.
Does pressure turn you off?